You may have 20/20 vision and still not be able to see what’s in front of you clearly. Scary thought isn’t it? And the fact that you might already be thinking “is Val crazy? I’m pretty sure I can see perfectly fine” proves my point.
We may see with our eyes, but we perceive with our mind. And that perception is what we consider our reality 99% of the time. We live our life based on memories, experiences, and things we have been taught as we grow up. While this is a powerful tool in order for us to differentiate a donut from broccoli, it can also be a very destructive tool. Limiting, and blinding us from truly seeing our beautiful reality.
How often have you avoided talking to someone because your mind has been conditioned to see their appearance as socially unacceptable? How often have you traveled somewhere and thought “Blech. The mountains are much more beautiful in… ”? or the one that all of us women often fall prey to when looking in the mirror “I looked so much better when…” only because we are comparing to the past – the memories we hold – and dismissing the present moment and all the beauty within it.
Since I arrived in Colombia all I have heard from my family non-stop is “You’re too thin. You need to eat more Arepas rellenas.” (see picture. kind of like a taco but better 😉 I might be a little biased hehe) and at first I was a little bothered by it.
Not because it made me feel insecure; more so because I feel so dang good. For once in my life I’m not on a restrictive diet, I’m not beating up my body with excessive exercise, I feel confident in my own skin, I feel healthy, and full of life. And after much thought I remembered what I shared with you guys. MEMORY, it skews reality. My family remembers me as the bikini bodybuilder who weighed 20lbs more because she was bulking – or the little girl who always had a few extra pounds because she likes to eat. It still doesn’t make it okay – because when is it really okay to comment on someone else’s appearance? But at least it helps me understand them better.
Don’t let your mind rob you from seeing what is truly in front of you. Whether it’s your own beauty, or the greatness in someone/something else. Get out of your memories and your minds conditioning, and start seeing things for what they truly are.